| Cameron
is a
married woman with three
teenage children but does not really
love her husband. Actually, she loves another
married man and they have had the
extramarital relationship for over 10 years now and
almost everyone knows about their
affair. Still their
affair is very tumultuous because they can never
spend
enough time together because of all the
restrictions. She writes, "I am feeling uncertain about
my lover.
He is now working out of town because he had a clash
with his family and decided to work at another
office of his employer just to get away from it all.
Obviously, I cannot see him even though he calls me
everyday. But I still feel
insecure. I feel bad for him because his family
never appreciates him for whatever he has done for them.
I am feeling so
confused and so scared that I'll lose him. I can't
afford to lose him. He is the only one I have in my
life whom
I can
trust. My husband and I are
strangers in the same house. Please help."
When a marriage is irretrievably
broken, it is better to end it
Oh I feel so sorry to hear this
development. As much as I hate what has happened to you
it is also clear that he too is in trouble. Can you two
just divorce and
start a new life? You
only live once and it is better to take risks for
your happiness than to live in pain and suffering. Based
on the current arrangements that you two have, I cannot
imagine how you both can ever
be happy.
Please give it some thought and ask him if he would be
interested in it. He can still be a good
ex husband
and father by having a
pleasant divorce and you too can work out an
arrangement with your husband so that there is minimal
damage to your children. I am confident that you two can
start a new life together so whatever life you have
left, you can
live it with someone you truly love. |
