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Jennifer,
started dating a
59-year old man when she was just 17 years old
(check your local laws -- depending on where you live,
it maybe illegal). She
tells me, "I
never really thought about the age. We were working
together and boom! It just happened. We started feeling
attraction for each other. When I
turned 18, I started
living
together with him and we have been together for 3
years now. We think
everything works great in our relationship. We work
on the same projects in his business, and we have same
interests. Our
sex life is wonderful as well for both of us. But
recently we can't
go out anywhere! Maybe it is just in
my mind but I see that he has to be checking on every
women around when we go out. When I complain, he says
I'm a
jealous person, and this is making our
relationship difficult. So I am feeling some kind of
fear. Was this really not love, just some desire to
be with a
young girl? How do I know that he has been honest
with me even though he is always
paying attention to other woman every time he sees
one? How do I make sure that I am the focus of his
life?"
I
think what is happening is very natural and since you
are still so young, you are struggling to understand it.
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Almost all men (no matter
what age)
like to look at other girls. It does not matter
if they are married or not. Yes, some men will
not look (very few and you will be lucky to find
one) and others will look only when they are
alone, but it is just natural for men to look.
It does not mean much. |
As a
married man, I do it too and my wife knows it very
well. Now she and I look together and often comment on
how another girl looks and if I tell her that a
woman is sexy, my wife then comments if she thinks
the same or not.
So, I would say, relax. Go out and have fun and let him
look. It does not mean that he is
going to leave you or he does not
find you
sexy. Stop
fighting with him over this issue and
start going out again with him. Because if he really
wants to look or
have sex
with another girl, you will not be able to stop him
because he can do it while you are not with him.
As you said, your
sex life
is already great and he is
good husband, so there is nothing to worry. |
