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Nina
writes, "I am a woman in my late 50s and
in love with a man in his late forties. I'm
extremely fond of him, to the extent that I got him a
high level job in my son-in-law's company. His only son
also stays with me when he is in town. Obviously, he too
stays with me whenever he
visits on
business. My
grownup children treat him well -- I mean the kids
understand our
special
relationship and have somewhat accepted him but my
only fear is that I have not told him my
true age.
He knows that I'm
older by a few years and not some
10 years older because I
look much younger for my age.
How far
will this relationship go? I love him a lot and he
too loves me; I'm sure of this. We do have our
fights
but then we are the same again; can't stay without each
other."
Men care more for
looks than age
I can tell you that when
men choose a woman they have already analyzed the
looks of a woman. And as someone who
looks so young knows very well, you must have seen
40 year old women who look like my grandma and also
40 year
olds who look as if they are in their late 20s. So
it
does not really matter to this man what your real age
is because he likes
the way
you look and I doubt if his attraction will change
based on your actual age. I think at this point, he is
looking for
companionship and
love, not the
mother for his children.
Regarding
fights, well, when
two people are in love and spend a lot of time
together, having differences and disputes are part of
the fun. The key is that no one holds grudges and the
love is not affected. Think
hard before marrying a man at this point
I think you are at a good point in your relationship. I
am not sure
how
you feel about marriage, but
marriage at this age can be complicated, unless your
children are on board with it and you
sign a prenuptial agreement so that property
disputes do not divide your family. You should honestly
discuss this with your boyfriend and hear how he feels
about
formalizing your relationship.
As you might have already seen in your life, people
always talk regardless of what you do. If they can't
find anything to talk about, they will invent something.
So don't pay attention to them; just worry about you and
the
man you love. |
