 Bridgette
writes, "I have been seeing regularly but just
platonically a many 30 years younger than me. I am
afraid to say that I am 67 and he is just 37. I am sure
everyone is shocked. If we go out I automatically get
given the bill and when we went out one day he was
referred to as "my
son". He is a high
autistic, so
age to him does not matter and I suppose an
older woman is less challenging. The problem is that
I have become
sexually attracted to him and know that maybe I
should
end the relationship because of this. However, we
are good
friends and it seems a shame. I know it is wrong my
seeing him and we go out and have
coffee together, go for walks and have
lunch
and
dinner and he teaches me
how to work
my personal computer. Should I not see him anymore?"
Actually,
it is very common for people to
fall in love with a friend. After all when you spend
a lot of time together and
share all the details without the fear of being
judged or hurting (as happens with
spouses and lovers), it is natural that you want to
love
the one you trust so much.
So your problem is twofold. One, you are
in
love with a friend after having a platonic
relationship. Two, this
man happens to much younger than you.
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Regarding converting a
platonic relationship in a
romantic relationship, the transition in
most cases can be really smooth because the
hurdles that a couple faces in a
conventional dating situations have already
been overcome. If he feels the same about you
and is
open to a romantic relationship with you, go
ahead and explore it. The only thing to remember
is that if it does not work out, your platonic
relationship may be gone forever and you might
lose a great friend. |
Regarding
dating someone so young, well, it is not as big a
deal as it used to be. People may not have someone they
know doing it, but they know it is starting to happen.
Yes, some people will ridicule you or avoid you or even
ask you to stop, but if I lived my life according to
what the world wants me to do, I will go nowhere or go
where I do not want to go. I know you are much
older and wiser than me, but I want to remind you
that you got here because you chose what was good for
you. So do it one more time and everything will fall
into place. I wouldn't worry about how others perceive
him. People will always find a way to say something
nasty, be it race or
skin color or
ethnicity
or social status.
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