Elizabeth
writes, "I am 60 years old and he will be 36, that is 24
years difference!! Is that too much of an
age difference for an
older woman, younger man? Gosh, Hugh Hefner is
60 years older than his fiancée Crystal Harris. We have
known each other for 12 years, but are not really
serious yet. I just found out he really really
likes cougars, but he was
afraid of rejection so never told me how much he
liked me. I, on the other hand, have liked him a lot for
a very long time, but thought he was ignoring me because
of the
age difference. I told him I would be very
interested to see if we can
make our relationship work. Do you think we have a
chance?"
You
cited a very good example of Hugh Hefner. While he could
have
found someone his age or
never married this girl young enough to be his
grand-daughter, he chose to do so because he sees
something in Crystal Harris that is special. Actually,
he could have continued to have her as one of his
paid girlfriends but instead he wants to
marry her.
To me
this simply demonstrates that many people are realizing
that age gap
is no longer meaningful. As conventional
reasons for marriage like social/economic/
religious have become irrelevant, we are now
looking for partners who enrich our lives and that
enrichment can come from people of any age, as described
in an excellent article in The New York Times by Tara
Parker Pope. Actually, a
younger partner is more likely to
introduce
us to new things and
make life much more exciting.
Indeed
the
age gap between the two of you is huge but I have
received 100s of emails from
couples like you who are happily enjoying their
relationship. So give it a chance and you may very
well find out that he was the
best
man that you ever fell in love with. |
