Ginger
writes, "I dated a
man who was
just so cute, funny, and
charming. It was a blast to be around him, but he
hated work. He would happily work in the
kitchen from time to time and enjoyed working in the
garden
but never
bothered to
look for a serious job and has no
history of employment lasting longer than 3 months
in dead-end jobs. I got sick of
supporting
him financially and while I miss him now I wonder
why do I attract such men. I now wonder if I can
find
another man considering that
I am in my
forties. Maybe I was too strict in judging him and
did not act the right way by
throwing
him out of my house. What do you think?"
You
were probably bitter and harsh with him, but based on
what you have told me about him, this man wouldn't move
his finger if he did not have to. Honestly, I have no
respect for such people, especially because they are
always looking for "victims" to fund their
lazy
lifestyle. Yes, he did have several great qualities
(assuming that he was not just putting on a show to get
what he wanted from you), but I think for what you spent
on him, you can
literally hire a man as a
pet to
do everything he did, including loving you, and in
return obey orders from you. I am making a rhetorical
point here but you can get my thought. A relationship is
great only when two partners share common values, vision
for the future, and work together to
build a
family. That was not going to happen with him the
way he was moving forward.
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I like to believe that what
we get is what we want when it comes to
partners. So it is not that you end up with
these types of guys, it is that you
secretly want these men. Why? Think about it
and look inside to answer that question. Maybe
you just want a man that is inferior to you. Or
that you like to "protect" a man than be his
equal. Or that you are attracted to wrong things
in a man. Not ambition, drive,
professional success,
wealth,
education, but
charm,
looks,
personality. |
I doubt if you threw away something
good. And other than the fact that he was nice company,
I cannot find anything good about him. You are
lonely right now, but little by little you can
build you
life again and he will simply become a distant
memory.
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