Summary:  Adultery can cause enormous damage to a relationship and in today's world where it is so hard to find a decent relationship to destroy one's relationship by being unfaithful is just not the right thing to do.  In this series of articles, we have already discussed the consequences of adultery, what happens when one partner violates trust and becomes unfaithful, how to deal with adultery, and that adultery destroys relationships and causes break-ups/divorces.  We will now discuss how to respond when you find that your partner is unfaithful.

Ensure that you have solid proof or accurate information.  Calm down, painful as it may be, and confront your partner when he gets home. Don’t follow her/him to the office or in a public place. If he she denies it, show them the proof. Truth is powerful. I tell you that they will be hit and confess. Don’t react negatively, but stay calm and say, “I need time and space to think about this. What I suggest is that we stay apart for now.” Never make a decision when you are emotional or angry; it will always be a wrong one.  (Related article:  Clues of a man cheating online)

In your space, think, cry if you feel like it, and go look for a trusted friend, pastor or visit your a counselor and talk about it. Tell them what you feel and think. Let it all come out. Don’t get angry and try to take revenge by going on all sorts of dates with other men or women to prove that you are valuable and can do it to. No, it’s time to reflect and rebuild. You are moving to another level of maturity in your life. It’s not the end of the world, but the beginning of a new life for you.  (Related article:  How to hire a private investigator?)

Only after you have healed and your head is clear, can you see your partner and then decide what you want to do next. If you partner is repentant and you want to save your relationship, then you need to go for some serious counseling. You need to, because you will never trust them the way you did, so all that must be rebuilt.  (Related article:  Risk of infidelity)

When damage occurs you can repair with a spare part or patch, but it will never be like the original. Certain things you can replace or fix, but the point is the patch/scar will still be visible as a constant reminder of the damage. However, don’t despair, you can heal.  (Related:  How to stop cheating)

Next:  How to start the healing process after adultery?    How to catch a cheat? 

Related:  How to respond to an affair        Impact of adultery on society and workplace   Christian relationship