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Patricia
writes, "I am currently in a
secret
relationship with a
much older
married man. I
love the attention and
he has been very nice to me so far. I understand
that we do not
have a
future together. So I guess everything is fine as
long as I don't ruin his family and that would be my
biggest
fear at the moment. Still, we can't seem to quit
each other for which I am grateful. If I don't actually
plan to start something serious with him, does it matter
that our
relationship mainly started out of his intimate desires
towards me and that he sort of persisted until I gave
in? I do love him though and I have enough evidence to
think that his interest in me now is
not only sexual."
When a
married man cheats, he risks his marriage
Since
he is cheating, I am guessing that he will be in a
lot more trouble than you if you were caught. At his age
I am not sure if
divorce is going to happen but I wouldn't be
surprised that he will be shunned by his wife (in case
she does not
leave him) and other family members. As far as you
are concerned, since you are
single and young, you can
move on without any problem.
Whenever a
married man (particularly an
old
man with a very young girl) dates someone, it is due
to
not feeling satisfied both sexually and
emotionally in his marriage. In such cases, it is
very normal and common that as the
couple
experiences physical intimacy, they
spend a lot
of time together and then develop
emotional intimacy. That is why you both seem to
have feelings for each other, though, I would not agree
with you that it is
love in
the conventional sense.
I am happy for you that you have someone like him in
your life and I am also relieved that you are not
serious about this because honestly a
marriage with him will be an awful idea (unless he
is very
very rich). As
he gets older his health will fail and you will end
up being a nurse to him and that would restrict you from
doing normal things that girls at your age like to do. |
