 It is
indeed shocking to me that I have become so close to
some of my
online lovers that I actually miss them. If I don't
hear from them I think about what is going on with them.
Have they forgotten me? Are they sick or too busy? We
have long
conversations about very private things. While my
anonymity has a specific reason, I am told that it has
helped people open up to me. For instance Rina tells me
a lot of things that she would not tell anyone in
person. She writes, "Do you
masturbate? For me, to tell you the truth, yeah, I
have done it just a few times. I think once in two
weeks. Do you have
wet
dream? Can you tell me that when you
feel hot
or let's ask this way,
how a guy can make you feel want to have sex with
him besides the reason that you love him?" Now these are
very personal questions and I have been asked these
question in the past before, mostly online. In real
life,
Japanese women tend to be rather shy and would not
ask such questions at all or if at all they did it will
be asked indirectly and if you have seen
Japanese
women, we will all put our hands on our mouths and
giggle like
high school girls.
Sharing secrets
Men
on the other hand share their secret fantasies with me.
Steve has been closely reading all my articles and has
figured out that I
love lingerie. He tells me, "I too appreciate
fine
lingerie, worn by a special lady. I think it must be
kind of exciting to
wear
something fancy under your dress knowing that men
wonder about
what
your bra or panties look like. Sometimes all it
takes is the an
outline of
a bra strap or a
peek at
the panty line underneath tight pants or a skirt to
get my attention and start my imagination. Well, I must
say that it is nice to know that you
wear
special things under your clothes, even though they
are out of view. So, what type of
men's
underwear do you prefer?" Well, I do make a special
point of wearing only the
finest in lingerie and end up spending a fortune on
my
underwear.
Wanting someone without meeting
I
think that I have been able to prove that a lot can
happen between a couple even if there is no physical
contact, including phone conversations. Paul shares his
thoughts with me, "It surprised even me that certain
circumstances can cause someone to
desire something so deeply. From my experiences I
think I can say that the things that people do for love
or anything they want so badly doesn't surprise me
anymore because I can relate to them, definitely. I
guess I agree with you that we shouldn't restrict
ourselves to
just one lover, but I don't know if I would consider
that a restriction by society, well,
adultery, I think, is only
committed if you dedicate yourself to someone, then
break that vow of dedication, but, you're never really
dedicated unless you marry and/or
have
children at which point you should be dedicated to
that person. I'm sure if I had to chance to, then
I'd want to have
multiple relationships but I guess I envy you for
being able to have so many relationships. I'd feel like
the luckiest person on earth if I had opportunities you
had, but, you know, every time I go to MyNippon and read
the latest article and fill the gaps of my growing
knowledge of Japan, and when I read your section,
especially, your e-mails, I just want to
experience Japan more and more. You have encouraged
me and motivated me to go for my dreams of
experiencing Japan (and maybe even living there)
and, of course,
finding love."
Robin actually has never
met the
love of his life. Sounds incredible but it is true
in this age. He tells me, "You write about that the
looks of a person often decide if we will love the
person or not, and I agree about that. It's actually
quite sad that the
looks matter so much. I actually
have
a girlfriend, whom I
met
over the internet. Or, I haven't really met her yet,
but she still is the only one I think about. I haven't
seen her picture yet, and she hasn't seen mine. We put
the commercials aside, and tested the product right away
:) I think that this is wonderful, because I think that
we have a bright future in front of us. Of course, we
might not like each other when we eventually meet,
because how the person acts still is an issue of
importance." |
