In a survey
conducted by us, we found that as many as
72% of you were highly dissatisfied and just 18%
said that their personal relationships were better than ever.
10% had nothing to complain.
Yuko from Sapporo writes, "My husband has avoided me since
we had our son. I do not recall the last time we did it." This is not uncommon in Japan where men have a lot of
freedom in determining how they spend their time after
work. Culturally, women never ask men if they do not come
home until midnight or are gone all week. They can simply
say that they have work or meetings or will be playing
golf with customers.
A 32 year old man writes, "I live in the countryside in a
tiny village. It seems that all the
young women in my
village have disappeared. When they do visit they have
changed so much and would not even speak to someone who
they think is a farmer and not worthy of them anymore." It
has become a major problem for Japanese in the countryside
and many of them are going out of Japan to
find their
partners. China and The Philippines seem to be the most
popular destinations.
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Paul Wright, who is 55
years old, and has a
Japanese
wife
tells MYNIPPON, "When I first met my Japanese wife in
Tokyo several years ago it was not her physical beauty that initially
attracted her to me but her
style;
elegant in manner and
fashion. When we decided to marry I still did not expect
anything special from our married life. I have to say that my
wife is sensational. She is
tall and
slim with
wonderful
skin. I have also discovered she is a
wonderful lover. I
have never experienced such
intimacy. Our bodies seem
to have been made for one another. No matter what position,
we find ourselves in, we fit. This is so important. But
the most enjoyable part of our
lovemaking for me are
the sounds she makes. I become even more excited than I
naturally am when she makes her noises. At first I thought
I was hurting her but it is just her way of showing her
enjoyment! I also used to
make love to her gently but she
complained that it was too soft so now I do it so hard
that occasionally I do hurt her but that is how she likes
it. After one year together our desire for each other has
not diminished at all. I just find her the best woman
in the world." |
 John, who lives in the UK, and has an 18-year old
Japanese
girlfriend, Ryoko, provides similar feedback. He tells
MYNIPPON, "I TOTALLY agree with Paul Wright.
Relationship with
a Japanese girl is mind-blowing. AND, as he says, the best
bit is the noise she makes. Ryoko is incredible. She is
very petite, but makes a lot of noise - groaning and
wailing as we
make love - especially as she approaches
climax. When she comes, she screams out loud. The
other thing that makes the sex so good is the way she
dresses! She insists on wearing a
thong everyday, even to
work. And she never wears
tights - always
stockings: she
says it is more convenient for her to go to the toilet.
Also she always wears very
high-heeled shoes. It was amazing for us both!!!!"
The foreign men in Japan are doing somewhat OK. The
English teachers seem to have slightly higher success
since they become popular among their students, most of
whom are young women or
happily married women and have
plenty of time and money on their hands. Jack confides, "I
am not exceptionally good-looking but I am some kind of
celebrity in this little town outside of Nagasaki. I am
the only gaijin around and life couldn't be better for
me."
Foreign women,
however, are not so lucky when it comes to finding
Japanese lovers but
a few have had some rather interesting adventures.
What do visitors/residents in Japan think?
Many other foreign men have indicated that due to poor
language skills it is extremely hard for them to
date
Japanese women. One man who did not indicate his race
writes, "Japanese women seem to have a distinct preference
for white men." Well, the situation is even more
interesting for
foreign women. The
Japanese men are just
too shy to approach them and
foreign men are too busy
chasing Japanese women.
Japanese women, however, continue to be
mysteries to men
from other countries. One message we recently received
asks, "Does culture play a big role in
how Japanese women
act? Do they prefer men to be "initiators?" Are they
open
about love? The reason why I ask is I've
been corresponding with this lady for several years and
like her very much. She knows how I feel about her but
sometimes I feel as though I've been pushing the issue too
much (just sent her an Easter card). Are women in Japan
any different when it comes to dating and pursuing?"
(Related:
Dating Japanese American)
Bob Keaton has some incredible experiences in Japan/Asia
and tells MYNIPPON, "I feel
Japanese women are too shy to
approach, yet they love to unveil the mysteries of the
round eyed men. Not that I'm only a gaijin and so called
over the hill man, but I'm a guy who was around and I do
believe that
oriental ladies are the most
adventures creatures on earth (in bed). And I'm sad, that
the new culture is taking a heavy toll on this most
incredible culture in the world. But for any gaijin, an
advice: DO NOT GET MARRIED UNLESS YOU MAKE
LOVE IN JAPAN." (Related:
Making love to a Japanese man)
A Canadian lady, who recently
met a great Japanese man,
writes, "I was pleasantly surprised when I made love
with a Japanese man one week ago. I have never been
attracted to an
Asian man before. I had low expectations
of his "size" and performance. Wow! He is amazing! No
disappointments anywhere. I am his first foreign girl.
Now, each time we do it, it gets better and better. He
is
better in bed than a lot of Canadians! Damn!"
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