|
Ramona
writes, "My
ex and I broke up about 3 years ago. We were
deeply in love and constantly discussed the future.
We had dreams. However, I was
young and still in
high school and I wasn't
ready for something so serious because I wasn't
mentally developed to understand much. I'm now 18 and in
my first year of
college and I still
can't stop
thinking about him. I have this
ache in my heart to have him around. I'm not sure if
I'm
ready for a relationship with him because it has
been so long. I want to revive what we had because I
still love him. I cannot surely say
I am in
love with him, but something is there. I feel like
our timing was off and if we approach this now as the
young adults we are, it might be different. How should I
go about doing this?"
Can a
teen romance be revived by adults?
I totally understand how difficult
high school is and it is nearly impossible to get the
relationship thing right. As you said, none of us is
mature enough to
understand relationships at that early
age. I know you are still very young, but at least you
seem to be ready to think more seriously about this.
This is what I suggest. Assuming he is still single,
available, and interested in you, write down your
thoughts and send him a note. Then try to meet with him
so that you can sort of discuss how you feel. Hopefully,
he also feels about you the way you do (it is entirely
possible that his feelings have completely changed and
that whole high-school thing is totally behind him).
Maybe it is a good idea to invest more time into knowing
each other and reviving what you had. Since you two knew
each other so well and broke up not because you hated
each other but because you were not ready, it should be
easy to
get back at it without hard feelings. |
