How much time for making love?

If no time for foreplay, don't do it

Summary:  If quality is more important to you than quantity, then it is better to reschedule lovemaking than to skip foreplay.  Maybe once in a while a quickie can be exciting, but that is not what couples should do every time.

Jeff writes, "I have been with my girlfriend in bed and in the car a couple of times and have been dating this girl now for about 8 months. We got intimate around month three. After having some really intense lovemaking sessions, she became less enthusiastic and then she told me something she has been thinking about and said that (and not to take this offensively) I need to learn better ways to please her, and that I am not as good at it as I used to be. When I asked her to be more specific, she said that she felt too weird saying it or telling me how to. So I told her I would figure it out. How can I know what is it that I am doing wrong? Nothing has really changed except the time we spent. During summer we had the time of like 4 hours to do stuff and now we don't, but other that that not really anything else has changed." I guess then the conclusion is that it is the time that is bothering her. I am guessing that you know well that women take much longer than a man to be ready for sex and that is why foreplay for them is an absolute must. It could be just cuddling, saying nice things to her, kissing, etc., but based on my discussions with many readers, even an "ordinary" man can have extraordinary sex if he can make a woman reach a point of great orgasm by having the patience to have foreplay till she begs him to penetrate her.

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