| Summary: Below is the
case of a couple in which the wife cheated on her
husband and when she confessed it to him the
overwhelming feeling of guilt was so strong that she
couldn't control her emotions and completely broke down
precipitating a crisis in the marriage. I give
tips on what a couple can do to salvage their marriage
in such difficult circumstances.
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No one
cheats without a reason. She must have hers. Tell
her you want to know because that will tell you both
what is wrong with your marriage because unless you know
what is not right you can't fix it.
She
is crying out of guilt and shame. It is one way most
women react to something terrible. So be a good listener
and let her pour her heart out. Tell her you will
forgive her for whatever she shares with you because you
want the marriage to work rather than to punish her
for it. It is clear that she is already punishing
herself. She may also be crying to gain your sympathy
and understanding in the hope that you will not hold
her adultery against her, forgive her, and be kind
to her considering her terrible state.
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If you don't
have a
marriage counselor, pick up the phone and call one. Get
an appointment ASAP. An expert may help her and you deal
with this crisis in a more professional manner.
Tell her
that you want to treat this crisis as an opportunity to
make things better because it is clear that at some
point you two drifted apart and she found solace someplace
else. Now that she has
admitted adultery, you want to start all over. |
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