Polyamorous men

If you are married or in a serious relationship and if you have not been tempted to cheat, you are either lying or you are God. I admire Lindsey Lohan for openly admitting that she is polyamorous. The reality is that we are all polyamorous (did you read about the guy who said that he is in love with two girls) -- that is how Nature wanted us to be and the French have seemed to accepted it -- that is what Carla Bruni did. Men have evolved to spread their seed to as many women as they can and women have evolved to find the best father for their children.

Unfortunately, if we had a free-for-all system and monogamy were to disappear, there will be a lot of chaos. Good men and women will be having all the fun while the losers will struggle to find someone even to talk to them. That is why the losers have become big supporters of marriage.

Watch this great video of an interview of Philip Weiss who spoke to Stephen Colbert regarding his research for the New York Magazine article, "The Affairs of Men."

Paul Wirth 30 Day Sex Challenge

A church in Florida (Relevant Church in Ybor City) appears to have found the answer to lower the 50% divorce rate among Christians in America.

So what is the solution?

More sex. Actually, while even Brazilians are not known to do it daily, pastor Paul Wirth has issued a 30-day sex challenge to married couples (apparently it does not matter if you are in a monogamous relationship for decades but are not legally married).

Christianity is known as a religion hostile to physical intimacy, (unlike Hindus, for instance, who came up with kamasutra) not just among gays and lesbians, but also among heterosexual couples. While the Protestants are somewhat more open minded, the Catholics are outright opposed to doing anything if it is not for the purpose of making babies. As the Relevant Church document points out, "For far too long the church has remained silent on the subject, leading many people to believe that God is against sex, which is completely counter to what the Bible teaches." I am sure that the Pope disagrees.

According to the church, "People are not having enough sex. An epidemic of breakups prove the needs that lead to a great sex life are being overlooked. Dirty dishes, frumpy clothes, and a lack of authentic connections are killing the romance. A great sex life is a challenge and takes focus, determination, and planning. Some say it’s an unrealistic goal, but we disagree. We believe you can have a great sex life, in fact we believe God wants you to have a great sex life."

This is new territory for Christians but this church has a pastor who would be a better host on MTV than in a church. He talks about what my wife is calling a sexathon with the ease with which he probably talks about baseball or gardening. "We know, it sounds crazy. However, we believe this challenge will not only improve sex lives, but also strengthen relationships. In this series married couples will review the obvious needs of him and uncover the forgotten needs of her and singles will cut through the illusions and consider the qualities that result in healthy relationships.

Couples married for a long time

Living in an environment of 50% divorce rate makes us all very skeptical of the institution of marriage. No wonder the first thing couples want to learn before the wedding day is how to write a prenup agreement. Despite this depressing environment, there is hope. Millions of couple actually do manage to remain married to the same person till their last breath. Here is a truly inspiration video of couples who have been married, literally, for decades.