| Summary:
Women are still not where they should be.
While they have made some progress, there is a
long way to go even in the so-called developed
world. So the key for women all over the
world is to believe that they are as good as
anyone else. In this series of articles, we
have already discussed how women
should believe in themselves, how they should take charge
of their lives, and how
to find people that they can trust. In
this part, advice on behaving and thinking like a
grownup person.
 Keeping up appearances and doing stupid things due to peer pressure are some pitfalls that people fall into. There is no need to
be a victim by spending your time
among peers in order to win their approval even when you know deep down that you are not supposed to be hanging out with such people. Do not be afraid to say what you feel or stand up for because you think you will offend them or they will abandon you.
Even for somebody to help you, it must be known to you that you need to play a role too. Know what kind of help you need and at what point. Also not all the advice you get is good. You need to sieve and pick out what applies to you based on your own wisdom and understanding of how you have chosen to lead your life.
(Related article: Midlife
crisis)
Keep this in mind:
- How you want society to treat you depends on what you portray or want.
- If you accept that you are inferior, that is what you will be. Keep in mind that color adds variety and completes the big picture.
- If you accept being put down by people, they will keep putting you down. That is just how it unfortunately
works.
- If they say you are dull and you accept it that is what you will be.
However, if you stand up and believe that what you are saying is right, people may argue with you but eventually people will accept you and respect you for who you are. So a lot of problems can be avoided based on our principles in life. But remember to let your principle be sound, intelligent and based on substance.
(Related:
How to make
a new beginning?)
When you become an adult, it means that now you are in charge of your own life, but get this straight, it does not mean that you are above the law or socially accepted behavior. To an extent you are still answerable to the laws of your nation, society, friends and relationships. Your actions may build or destroy lives; thus, the importance of a good stand in life.
I have seen and met married men and women who run to their mothers when they have a problem with their spouse. This simply means that you are immature and unprincipled. When you were a child it was okay to run to your mother when a bully got your lunch, but now it’s not proper to do so. What applied then can’t apply now that you are an adult. There are certain problems that you have to learn to sort out on your own, as you grow older. Only then can you become wise and mature enough to handle situations and even help others.
A
relationship between a man and a woman is only between two people. If there is a problem, the two of them need to sort it out and if they think it requires help from out side, then that decision must come from them. I have seen men who fail to put their foot down when it comes to interference in the marriage by their mother, sister or aunt. He will allow these people to oppress his wife in her own home.
Continued: How
to succeed at family life? |
