How to compete with other girls for men?

I am so frustrated that I am not as beautiful as them

Summary: A lot of women wrongly believe that men always pick beautiful women over average looking girls. Only if life and men were so simple. The reality is that what makes two people click is very complex and that is why you will see a lot of single but good looking women while so many 'ugly' girls are happily married to wonderful husbands. Read below my tips on how to deal with this dilemma.

Photo of a girl with average looks who is frustrated because she is still single

Margaret asks, "I am a good girl who plays by the rules and just want to have a normal relationship so that I can get married and have a family. However, I am not drop dead gorgeous or even good looking and I am realizing that I am unable to compete with other prettier women and lose to them in the race for boys. I am so upset with my failures that I want to give up. What can I do?"

I think first of all you need to get this out of your head that somehow you are less beautiful and other women are more beautiful. Trust me, beauty is subjective and standards of beauty are different for each man, and that is why when a man picks another woman over you, it may have nothing to do with her beauty.

Secondly, you will need to build your self esteem, because it seems to me that it is linked with the point above. I have never met a guy who likes a girl who looks down upon her or keeps berating her or is not sure of herself.

Finally, dating is not a competition. When you meet the right man and there is chemistry between the two of you, magic will happen and it wouldn't matter if Scarlett Johansson is interested in that man.

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