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Marty
writes, "I have been
fantasizing of a family friend for a few weeks.
Recently I saw her again at a get together with a bunch
of people that I know. The evening went very well
beginning with pleasantries and ending with everybody
feeling a little tipsy; overall it was nice and warm. My
heartthrob and I didn't have any special moments. In
fact it was warm but in the casual sense and nothing
specific. However, I could not bring myself up to
complimenting her although she was
looking gorgeous, but got casually chatting with
her, which happened for the first time. There is however
a small revelation she made to my wife. She said she was
scared of me and that she respected me immensely. What
could this mean? Is it good or bad? I'm unable to
decipher it. Perhaps you would be able to. But yes, she
did call me back the next day to tell me that she
enjoyed the evening and looks forward to more of such
encounters.
Do I have any chance with this woman or should I
just spend rest of my life
fantasizing about her?"
A confident seducer is confident,
cool, and never desperate
I can
understand why you couldn't say what you wanted to say
but remember that the
real
seducer strikes at the right time. So if you try to
rush something it may not come out right. Now that you
are
mentally prepared, when you do say it, it will come
out just right and will appear to be a spontaneous
remark rather than something
fake or contrived.
When women say that they are 'scared' or 'respect'
someone they are alluding to his power over them.
Remember that we dudes are attracted to a
woman's ability to give birth and
raise our
children (at a very primitive level that is
what
drives male behavior, according to most experts), a
woman at the same level is looking for a better provider
and someone who will guarantee security to her and the
offspring. If I have read it right so far, it does seem
to me that your cool, business-like, and reserved
personality has put fears in her head that you maybe a
harder nut to crack, and while it helped you in becoming
her heartthrob, I am hoping that as you become more
approachable, she will warm up to you.
One thing that
women love (and get frustrated if a man does not do
it) is
attention from men. When a
man does not appreciate them they can get offended,
angry, frustrated, and combative (even if no
sexual
attraction is on her mind). That is why it is
important to appreciate what women do and it applies to
all women including family members,
colleagues,
and
strangers. |
