Connie
writes, "I am
dating a younger man who just turned
42 and I
am 60. I cannot get past this
age difference. I know that age is only a number but
when I think about the 18+ years between us I get
nervous. I told him that I did not want him to
fall in love with me when we first started seeing
each other. He told me this week that he thinks he has.
I told him I could not say that back to him although I
am very fond of him. He is wonderful and I love being
with him, I love
making love with him. He's very gentle, caring and
shows much concern for me. I could go on and on but I'll
stop. What shall I do? I'm not sure how long this will
last. Again I ask myself, what shall I do about this
relationship."
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Since
our minds are so conditioned to believe that we should
only
date people in our age bracket, we tend to impose
restrictions on our own behaviors. In the process, we
can destroy our innermost feelings and deprive ourselves
of love that we truly deserve. |
In your case, it is very clear that this man truly likes
you (I would advise you to make sure he is not a
crook
who is faking his affection for you for the sake of your
wealth, if you have any) and clearly understands that
you
cannot give
him a child. In other words, if he is fine with the
situation, why are you worried. Yes, you realize that
you have a
great relationship with him despite the
huge age
difference and the only reason you want to deprive
yourself the joy of being in love because he might be
too young for you.
I am sure you will face some ridicule for your decision,
but if you two are compatible and you get genuine joy
out of this relationship, it will be sad if you would
want him to go away just because he is not 60. |
