Tell
me if I'm wrong...but I told him not to go in so I think
it is his own entitled attitude that sent him to
jail. Of course he and my family disagreed. I got
mad and went home to my boyfriend. My husband showed up
there at 5 AM the next morning. He banged on the door
for 2 hours while I hid in the
bathroom -- completely terrified that I now had to
face the truth. He had found the address by buying a
people search listing from one of those creepy websites
that sell your information for a few bucks. I told him I
only stayed there because we had
partied with several friends the night before. He
obviously said it was time to come home, so I went. I
disconnected my
phone because I didn't want anyone to text or call
and him find out the truth, and we locked ourselves in
our house for a week to figure out if we were going to
reconcile or not.
To my
complete and utter surprise there was NO
abusive behavior whatsoever. He was great to me. I
was so shocked. He said he realized
he had been abusive and was prepared for
counseling and whatever else it took to
fix our marriage. I tested the waters and admitted
to
kissing the other man...once. He threw up. But he
forgave me. I now had NO idea what I was going to do. If
he was really going to be the husband I had always
begged him to be I wanted to stay with him. But I also
couldn't even come close to imagining being able to let
go of my
perfect boyfriend.
When
that week was up my husband and I had outwardly decided
to reconcile. But my
heart was torn in two. So I got back in
contact
with my boyfriend. He had been so worried. I
lied...oh I am so stupid. How could I tell him that I
didn't know any more? I told him we were working on a
divorce and I was
staying with my parents. Like I said we are like
people sharing a brain...he knew I was full of crap. He
questioned me but I stuck to my story. Then he called my
husband. He didn't rat me out...just asked if we were
together. My husband said yes...then my boyfriend called
and my husband pretended he was a friend from work and
handed me the phone. Talk about shock. I told my
boyfriend to come over and I sat them down and told them
both the truth about everything. And they both left me.
My
husband drew up divorce papers. My boyfriend and I
talked it out and be said he understood why I lied and
while he was angry about it that he knew it wasn't
really against him, that I was trying to protect every
thing until I got it sorted out. He said he was most
upset that I felt that I had to lie because there was no
need and he wanted me to know that I never under any
circumstances had to do that again because if we are
always honest with each other we can make it through
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