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Cynthia
writes, "After
years of being married and having a few
flings in my marriage, I don't feel
emotionally attached to my husband the way I was. Is
there any
hope for my marriage?"
The
main reason for feeling this way is is that you have
been thinking about the other guys that you cheated with
for so long and so much and have made a serious effort
to ignore/forget your husband that love has disappeared.
In other words, you will have to go back to the time
when you two were
dating,
fell
in love,
got married,
went on a honeymoon,
became parents, etc. and then recognize that this is
the guy that you have been with all these years. You
will basically need to make yourself
fall in love with him all over again.
It was hard to love him when you were having
dreams about your lover but once you have decided to
forget the past and focus on your hubby, it should be
easy. I know you can do it.
And oh yes, the intensity may not be the same as it used
to be, but that is OK because even in
couples like me who are in perfectly healthy
relationships, we do take each other for granted and
don't go
crazy in the bedroom as we did when we first started
dating 15 years ago. What matters is that you have
a
firm commitment to him. |
