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Rudy is a
happily
married man but has a huge crush on his wife's best
friend who
started
flirting with him in the first place. He was always
polite and professional towards her until he noticed
that she was warmer towards her than one would expect a
friend to be and that is when he joined the game. He
writes, "After a
couples party over the
weekend, she called me on my
mobile phone and told me what a great time she had
even though the party was at a friend's house.
Apparently she also told my wife that she never enjoyed
these get-togethers more than she did this time.
Does she like me and, if yes, to what degree and can
I hope that there shall be something between her and me
in the near future?"
Affairs with married women take
time and patience
I do
sense something positive that she called you directly.
Not only does it show that she wanted to speak to you
alone but also that she is not scared to a point that
she would not call the
husband of her best friend.
Regarding your question (Does she like me and, if yes,
to what degree and can I hope that there shall be
something between her and me in the near future?),
honestly, I don't know. I think there are some positive
signs but we really don't know what is in her head and
what she really wants. There is a strong possibility
that she may have completely different expectations or
her behavior is totally innocent or that she is simply
happy to
fantasize about you and may not really want to do
anything at all. I think you too should keep an open
mind about this and take what you get considering the
difficult circumstances. For all we know you may not get
anything more than the
pleasure of her company or an opportunity to
dance with
her or some
flirtatious conversations and it might still be
worth it.
I do not anticipate, and will advise you strongly
against it, that somehow you two can have this cozy,
sexual
relationship in which you two can
make love whenever and wherever. Remember that even
Tiger Woods with his billions could not
keep his affairs secret forever. What I am saying is
that overdoing may invite disaster in the sense that
someone will definitely find out at some point and that
means
troubles in two marriages and
end of a
friendship. So take one step at a time and cherish
what you get. |
