| Ron
writes, "I think I am
attracted to a friend of my wife
and I kept my feelings hidden until I saw that she too
was attracted to me as she showed by
flirting with me
during a recent
party for several couples and has been
extra warm towards me. Naturally I want her even more.
Since I have no desire to hurt her or my marriage, I
want to be careful. So far I have no idea how far she is
willing to go and what exactly does she want. I'm
perplexed about how to read her right, know
what she
wants, find out if she will be willing to actually have
a semi-permanent sexual relationship with me, where we
can be together sometimes, if not all the time. See, the
primary thing is to know if she really will allow me to
get intimate with, what she is willing to explore, then
how
to create conducive circumstances, wherein she takes
another look at her stand and comes a step forward.
Hypothetically, if she is not willing to
jeopardize her
marriage, which obviously even I do not want to do, then
how to convince her that her
marriage would be safe and
she will
have so much more fun. To reach this point
where to begin, what hints to read, what hints to drop,
how to win her heart, how to do the right things, start/finish where, etc. I like her so much that I
don't mind creating the right conditions where such a
relationship
could blossom. Please advise. I am going nuts for
her. I hope I'm not sounding
desperate." How to win a
married woman's heart?
Regarding your question about reading her right and
knowing what she want, what I expect that over the
coming months as you two socialize more often and get
opportunities to spend more time together, there will be
moments when she or you might be able to say things that
you have been meaning to say (e.g. when you two are
together and the time is right, I don't think she would
be offended if you told her, "Hey, I could part with a
million bucks to
kiss you right now." Honestly, she will
be flattered and even if you don't
get the kiss at that
moment the hint would have been dropped). This sort of
friendly, flirtatious approach will lead to your emergence as
a warm,
trustworthy man and hopefully she will see that.
At this point she has not given any indication about her
intentions other than some
flirting with you. I think
events over the coming weeks and months might give you
more hints.
I think there is not much to do except trying to see her
more often, then making an attempt to
pay direct
attention to her, and
subtly flirting with her. I am
hoping that at some point you will get an idea of where
she is at and how far she wants to go. A woman has many
ways to indicate her willingness, say, by
touching you
in a certain way or
directly saying something or even
going ahead and taking the initiative.
No, you are not sounding
desperate but you seem to be
confused that you can do something more than what you
are already doing. If you two were
single, I could suggest a
million ideas to
win her heart and make it all happen
but considering your delicate situation, you have very
few options, but isn't it true that you started working
on this just recently? I suspect that even getting a
hint of her willingness may take several weeks or even
months? |
