| Karl
writes, "I was
dating a
married woman and then after
stealing my heart, she decided to
breakup
with me. Since I was so
emotional about her, I told her that we should at
least
stay as friends. I really like her as a good human
being, not
because of sex. From time to time we do meet as she
travels quite a bit and we are able to coordinate our
trips. We are
also
neighbors and there is always something that I see
that reminds me of her. Please tell me
how should
I approach her once again? You probably won't
believe me but she is like my pillar of strength.
Somehow
I want her in my life. I am
heartbroken. I've
feelings and I'm very emotional guy. I really can't
concentrate on my work anymore. I really like her. If
she'll be as a friend to me, she will be like strength
to me. Please help."
Extramarital affairs are not easy to
maintain
I hope you realize the difficult
situation that she is in. It is not easy for a
married
woman to have a relationship with another man -- do you
realize the danger she puts herself in every time she
even sends you an email or
hooks up with you? I think under the circumstances
she is doing the best she can and that is why she has
met with you as often as she has. Obviously she always
realizes that she needs to end it -- for your good, for
her own good -- but she cannot.
I think the main reason she is
reluctant to stay as a friend is that once a
couple has an intimate relationship it is impossible
to remain
friends. She wants to
get
away from you because she just cannot resist you. I
think she already knows how much you like her, so as
long as you let her decide the time and place, and be
there, you can have a relationship without putting too
much pressure on her. You will have to
respect her privacy and her difficult situation.
So honestly tell her
what kind of love you have for her and how you would
like to be there for her whenever she has even a moment
for you. If she responds positively, then, you will have
all you want.
At this point I am not sure that she
wants anything more than what she has with you. So your
best option is to take what you can and cherish the
pleasure
and the memories. |
