Summary:
Women are still not where they should be.
While they have made some progress, there is a
long way to go even in the so-called developed
world. So the key for women all over the
world is to believe that they are as good as
anyone else. In this series of articles, we
have already discussed how women
should believe in themselves. In this
part we will discuss how they should take charge
of their lives.
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When you have a firm stand, there are certain things that you don’t even have to go home and think about; you just give your answer immediately, because you are so sure and certain about
what you want in life. So there is no need for further discussion as the subject is closed. In life, we have challenges and it is at such times that we tend to be vulnerable to pressure to do certain things. If you don’t have rules that govern your life, then you will fall in this trap.
Aim to reach a point in your life where you don’t expect to hear a ‘yes’ in order to know or get approval of what you are doing. Do things that you believe are right even when the majority disagrees. Remember you don’t always need approval to do certain things as long as you know what results you want to achieve. The power within you is enough approval. However, let this stand also come out of a humble heart and never should you allow pride to be your companion in your stand for what you believe is right. They may disagree today but when they see what you are doing is good, you will definitely have a good following.
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 As an adult, never should you allow another person to ruin your life. I believe every human being is gifted with a brain, five senses and a heart. Build your life on something solid but be intelligent and learn to search for the absolute truth in what you choose to believe in, but firstly, believe in yourself as this is of prime importance. Believe that you are capable of making important decisions about your life. Counselors will give you advice and options but they will not decide for you as they believe that you have an inner ability to make a decision, and because at the end of the day, it’s your life and you understand yourself better. You are the only one who knows your deep needs and how deep the pain is at that particular time. This is also true with the doctor; he may
prescribe medication but 60% of how soon you will be cured depends on you. If you want to get better, it is going to
take your inner strength to sustain you.
We
only have one life, and therefore, we
cannot afford to waste it and base it on other people’s opinions. Remember, everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but people will respect that, if it is sound and you mean business when you stand up for it. When in trouble, a person without a foundation will be running helter skelter telling everybody about her/his problem, thereby destroying her/himself even more. By running all over, it means you announcing to the world that your brain is malfunctioning and it just shows
how unwise and unstable you are in your ways. There are things you can not share with some people and there are things you can share with others. This requires a lot of character and wisdom on your part.
Build good friendships and relationships with the right kind of people, study your friends, spouse, church elders, parents, family and know their true character, learn their strength and weaknesses. Out of this, you will be able to know who to go to when the need arises. For instance, you don’t go to an accountant when you are sick. Neither do you go to the bank manager when you need to
buy a dress.
Continued: Who
should you trust?
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How not to hate my life
I feel
lost
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