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Nancy
writes, "My boyfriend and I started seeing each other a
year and a half ago. I was only 17 and he was 20, so my
parents
wanted us to break up. I eventually was told to
leave
him or leave home, so being an impulsive person, I
left home and I
moved in with him and his family after just 3 months
of seeing each other. We have been living like that
since, he told me it wasn't his idea but he was happy
that I was there. Things went good,
sex was
great, we sometimes did it about 6 times a day. Then
things slowed down as expected and after a while we
started
fighting over little and stupid things. Then he
met this woman at his gym and he said he thought he
liked her and she was
constantly
flirting and telling him to leave me for her even
though
she was married. Eventually I told him to stop
talking to her and he did. But since then there
seems to be a new girl every month or so and he says he
has a thing for her and that he doesn't know if he
loves
me anymore. I am
now pregnant and he says he doesn't know if he loves
me and that he really likes this girl and that he still
really cares about me but the
flame
needs to be reignited. We can't afford to do very
much and we still live with his parents. I have no idea
what to do.
I love him with every bit of me and he says he cares
about me a lot and that he really likes me but he
doesn't know
if it is love. We are really stressed about the
lack of
money, incoming
baby, we need to move out of his parents place ASAP
and just everything is so
stressful and we fight so much due to that. I have
gone away and he says he
missed me and
wanted me
back but doesn't no if he loves me. I think he might
be
depressed but I have no idea what I can do to help
him and
make him love me. I just want him to be happy. Help
me, please. How can I
reignite the flame; our
sex life is as good as I can make it because I can't
do very many positions because I am 6 months pregnant.
I'm trying to make him happy and we want to
do
some couple things that we can afford. Please, any
advice would be fantastic!"
Teen pregnancy is terrifying to everyone
At this point you need to get in damage control mode so
that you can have a normal
childbirth and then take care of the newborn. You
will also need to
lose all your pregnancy weight and
get back to your feet in every other way.
Men who are afraid of being fathers
Now regarding your
relationship with this man, he is basically trying
to get rid of you by telling you that he does not love
you. Obviously, he is not
prepared to be a dad and I wouldn't be surprised
that some people around him were essentially telling him
to leave you and move on so that he does not have to
deal with being a
dad. I think you are totally wrong to think that
somehow if you
gave him more or better sex, things will change. I
very much doubt that the current set of circumstances
has anything to do with his not being
sexually satisfied.
At this point, fighting is pointless and you have to
understand that yourself and tell him so too. Let him
know that whether or not he likes it, he is going to
be a dad
and there is no way he can change that. It is his legal
responsibility to
provide
for his child and you expect that he would do the
right thing. You can also tell him that you both need to
work on your relationship together as a couple and
he should give his best rather than try to find excuses
for not liking you and
checking out other girls. When will this dude stop
being a teenager and
become a man?
Also try to reach out to your parents and apologize to
them, if possible. Hopefully, they can stand beside you
in this tough moment. |
