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Antonio
writes, "There's this
girl I
really like and we only became very
close
friends about two months ago. I told her I was
in love with her and she said she doesn't think both
of us could ever be together because she sees me as a
friend and that she isn't
ready for any
relationship right now. She says
teen love always ends in heartbreaks and she doesn't
think she could let
someone boss her around. She actually insinuated
that she doesn't
feel any
love or
attraction for me at all and that I am probably
infatuated with her and
what I feel isn't love. I don't really know what to
do. I feel like I should give up on her or keep on
trying but that isn't really the problem. The problem is
What can I
do to win her over?"
Never bother with a reluctant woman
Unfortunately, this
girl not only is not attracted to you, she is also
very cynical. How can she seem to know all the answers?
How can she make such a sweeping statement that all
teen relationships end in heartbreaks? I am not such
a big fan of cynics.
I know you will find this advice a little bit contrary
to your expectations, but it is much better if you just
leave her alone. Right now she is not
ready for a
relationship, she is not attracted to you, and
really has no interest in being with you (some girls who
like another guy often also use these excuses) and
trying to win her over might even turn her off and you
will be wasting time over a girl while you could be
using this time to
woo another girl who may be more amenable to
go on a date with you.
Life is about making compromises and there is always
another option in life. So if this girl does not care
for you, why waste time on her? Go
find
another girl, make her feel special, show her
how good a man you are, and trust me, she will
appreciate that. |
