I have
been dealing with this situation for a year now and the
stress is affecting my physically --
no sleeping,
messed up eating pattern,
bodyaches,
hair falling out, periodontal disease beginning. I
have to make a decision within three days.
So my
husband and I have been together 3 years, married two
and separated for one. He was
abusive verbally, emotionally, and physically on
occasion (has sat on top of me with his hands around my
neck several times, pushing, throwing things, squeezing
me, but never ever actually causing me any real damage).
He has an
addiction to porn and
cybersex, which he lied to me about for our entire
relationship until I caught him. He also is
demanding sexually with me, to the point of throwing
huge tantrums until I give in or having
sex with
me while I sleep.
These are the reasons
I left him one year ago. What's great about him is
that he supports me in everything I want to do, provides
for me in every way, is always doing little things to
show me he is thinking of me and that he loves me, takes
me on
great vacations every year, wants to have a family
and be a great
dad (because he grew up with a
dad constantly in rehab who
emotionally
and verbally abused him, who he could never be good
enough for, though his
parents are still together and he tries his best to
this day still trying to please his dad). He is mature
and has a wonderful job and has left his party days
behind him and really
wants
a stable life. The only problem was that he was
abusive.
Okay
so I separated from him to show him he HAS to treat me
better. But the separation only made the
abuse worse; every time I came home there was an
episode, when in normal life it only happened every so
often (with the exception of
verbal criticism which was always constant). He
brought my family into it. Became
best friends with my mom calling her every day to
get her to help him figure out how to get me to come
home. As a result my mom and I fought and didn't talk
for months. |
