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Amy
writes, "Some people are
not meant to get married. I am one. I don’t
regret marriage but it is like swimming against the
current. Everything is about sacrifice. Some come
easy, but most take a part of you away. I feel trapped
too. And I cannot remember
what it was that makes me happy. How do I go back
there without
leaving my husband and two great kids, something
that I would never want to do?"
You
have not disclosed your age to me, but I am guessing
that you are at least in your mid to late 30s or older,
and that is the time that most of us who want to
live our lives beyond just education,
marriage, and
kids, start reevaluating
how to find true happiness. This
search for joy in life is not an easy one because,
believe it or not, it takes a lot of time for many of us
to even
find out what gives us happiness. I am actually
surprised and feel glad for all those
people who feel so happy
eating at their favorite restaurant or
going on a trip or
watching a movie the day it comes out, or
getting the latest iPhone. I am suspecting that you
have the same dilemma.
My
advice to you would be to recognize that
if you are married and do not want to
end your marriage, your best hope for
finding vast majority of happiness is with your
husband and kids. In addition to that you will need to
involve yourself in passionately in an activity that you
enjoy. It will be great if it is your work, but if not,
it can be a hobby or whatever else that can consume
every spare minute of your life. |
