 Emily
writes, "I am 39 and he is 23. I met him two years ago.
I have two teen children and a toddler (who he has
raised
with me) from a previous marriage. We now also
have a
child together. I care for him lots but I feel that
I am taking his youth away. I always tell him why not go
with someone his age. I don't have anything. Yes, I
have my children and love them dearly but
how is someone that is a lot younger going to be
interested in someone that is an old hag when they
can have someone of their age, have a
beautiful body, have
interest of his age group, etc. We go out together
but I feel uncomfortable because there are
younger girls his age and it
makes me feel jealous. Then we argue. I know it is
my fault and I feel
insecure that he will just
leave me
and my statement will be true that he is interested in
girls his age. I don't blame him but
I do want to be happy. I do want to love him, not
just care for him because sometimes
I
feel like a mother to him. Tell me what is wrong?"
Young men who date mature women know
what they are doing
In my opinion, if there is a
young man that wants an older woman there is a
strong reason for it -- he likes her more than any other
woman in the world. Maybe he
likes you because you are old but he could also like
you because of your
eyes or
smile or
sense of humor something else. The point is that if
you both like each other, then why do you worry so much
about his leaving you. If you were with a
man your age or older than you, will he not leave
you? I think there is no guarantee these days. So by
constantly making a big issue of the
age difference, you are making your and his life
difficult and making the relationship painful. If he
wanted
younger girls he would have never
been your boyfriend or left you a long time ago.
My advice would to you would be do to
get over this age issue and focus on being happy
with him. As you already know nothing lasts forever
these days so assume that this will last as long as
possible and you will enjoy every moment of your life
with him.
Regarding being like a mother to him, well, if you are
older than him and you have a lot more
experience in life, it is natural to help someone.
For instance, if I know something more than my wife, I
always tell her what I know and she does the same. There
is nothing wrong with holding someone's hand if you are
better at something. And trust me, even though
he may be
younger than you, he can teach you a thing or two
about
computers or
networking or
technology. |
