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Carol
writes, "I want to pack up my things and my kids and
get
out of a bad relationship but I have no money or
nowhere to go. What can I do? I pray and ask
God but I don't know what He wants me to do. I am so
confused. I need some advice please."
Options for victims of domestic
violence
Your best option is stay with him till you
save enough money and develop a plan on where you
will go and how you will take care of your family.
Before I get to the details, if there is
abuse
and
domestic violence, you might need to seek the help
of
police and a
lawyer. Also look in the phone book, and call a
local place that helps
abused
women, and they might be able to provide you with
temporary housing and some help with
raising
the kids. Such institutions also help women like you
get up on their feet by helping them figure out
how to make a living. I would expect that you can
get some help from the government as well. Since you
appear to be a
woman of faith, I also encourage you to speak to
your
congregation and ask for help.
How to plan a life after leaving?
If things are not that bad, and you have a roof over
your head and enough money to put food on the table, it
is best to wait. Use this time to
do some
work,
save some money, and develop a plan to be a
single mom. During this interim period, do not
fight with
your husband and be as nice as you possibly can,
because the last thing you want to do is to waste your
time and energy on a
man that you are going to leave anyway. Just
get
what you need out of him but use each hour to prepare
your next step, which is to
divorce him and then become independent so that you
can
be happy yourself and
raise
your kids in a safe and peaceful environment. If you
leave without a plan, trust me, you could end up
homeless and in a very desperate situation. |
