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How to approach Latino men?

Lakisha writes, “I always had an attraction for Latinos but I can’t find myself to approach them. There aren’t that many young Latino men in Alabama. Is it wrong to date a man of your liking? I feel that Latino men don’t give African American women the time of day. Do Latino men like or date African American women?”

There is nothing wrong with dating whoever you like.  You will also be happy to know that I am married to a Latina and I am living example that interracial relationships work out just fine.

Now as you know better than anyone already, there is a little bit of tension between the Blacks and Hispanics.  Like anything else, it is complicated and there are several reasons for the sense of suspicion that exists in both groups.  Many African Americans feel that they now have to compete with Hispanics and there are a lot of racist Latinos who tend to discriminate against them.  However, not everyone is the same and that is why I want you to keep trying.

You have not indicated a whole lot in your email, but I would say that the hunter needs to go where the animals are.  If possible, you may want to think of some ways to go where more Latinos are and that can mean something as simple as working (even part time is fine because you are really going to meet men not to work) at a business that they patronize or volunteering at a charity that serves them to actually relocating to a state with more Latinos, like California or Texas.  I am confident that once they see the real person behind you and get over the stereotype, then you will find the connection with someone.

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My younger husband is my soulmate

While I mostly respond to problems from my readers, occasionally my fans simply write to share a beautiful, romantic love story and this story is one of them: a mature woman married to a much younger man and so happy with everything.

“Thank you for your article about cougars happy with their younger husbands. I wholeheartedly agree with you — it’s not about age, it’s about compatibility. I’m married to my soul-mate, who happens to be 11 years younger than me. He’s my dream man in every way, shape, and form, except I would have never guessed he’d be so young. Five years, a marriage, and a son later, our relationship still grows stronger, which is amazing since it started so well. My previous boyfriend was 7 years older, so I don’t think I’m an immature woman. I have no interest in mothering anybody, except my son. I am shocked by the stereotypes of couples in large-age-difference relationships — the other article I read was filled with awful bullet points telling me how I must be because I’m so much older than my husband. In the end, my husband and I are equals and in the relationship everyone is hoping to find. Sorry to sound like a sappy Hallmark card, but this is my life. Yes, it’s all about compatibility. I hope my son will also find his soulmate, but I realize that’s an awfully high bar. Thanks again for your refreshingly honest article. BTW, I don’t even believe in a soul, but I HAVE TO believe in a soul mate.”

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