Attitude among women towards physical intimacy
Appreciate it and men can have great relationships

By Don Diebel

Probably the biggest mistake that men make in understanding single women is underestimating just how important intimacy is to single women. It is easy to see, however, how men would fail to recognize intimacy as being a major motivation to single women.

It has always been socially acceptable for men to desire intimacy, and even to be open to others about their desires. It has been frowned upon for years, however, for single women to discuss or admit to desires. A single woman who lusted for intimacy was considered a whore or a slut. Single women were even afraid to admit to themselves that they had desires because of feelings of guilt that society heaped upon them. 

Thus the single female desire is not something that has been talked about openly, and for this reason men have been lulled into thinking that since it is not talked about much, it must not be a very strong motive in single women. The fact of the matter is that female desire does exist. And, it exists in single women every bit as strongly as it exists in men. We will go so far as to say that the real, unspoken motive being the women's movement was freedom to be intimate at will. Not freedom to have intimacy necessarily, but that it is okay for women to admit that they enjoy it, and want it, and have it with more than one man if they want. The women's movement was saying, "Hey, we enjoy intimacy just as much as men do, and that shouldn't be a sin. We are tired of the double standard."

And that is what has happened. Single women now realize that it's okay to enjoy intimacy and they are out looking for it. Intimacy is something that single women can enjoy too - not just a dutiful obligation to a male dominated society. 

Single women are far more discriminating than men are concerning intimacy. They desire intimacy as much as men do, but whereas men will often have intimacy with anyone, single women are looking for someone special. They are passing up intimacy with just anyone to wait for someone to come along who they deem to be that special guy. Single women today not only want intimacy, they want good intimacy. And as far as single women are concerned, whether or not the intimacy they have is good is the responsibility of the man. We, as men, are the first ones to point out that this fact is unfair, but also the first to point out that it is a reality that we all have to live with. 

The next time you are trying to figure out a single woman's actions, just suppose that she is as motivated and swayed in her behavior by desire as you are. Time and again, men ask us, "Why did she go for him? He doesn't have nearly as much going for him as I do." The answer is simple: She was more attracted to him than you. And that is it in a nutshell. Single women are choosing men just like men choose women - by attraction. If a woman is interested in you it is your visual appeal that got your foot in the door, and now good intimacy will help keep you there. 

Intimacy is a very powerful aspect of relationships. This is not to say intimacy is the total element of a relationship, but we are saying that it plays a larger role than people like to admit. Single women, just like men, will want to meet someone or start a relationship with someone if they find that person attractive. And, as the relationship continues, good intimacy is often the strongest glue that holds the two people together.

If it were possible to take an objective survey, we wouldn't be surprised if the results concluded that many break-ups today stem from dissatisfaction or boredom, and that partners leave the relationship because they are looking for something better. More specifically, exciting experiences. Single women are leaving relationships because of this more so today than ever before. 

And what does all of this mean? What is the point of this all boiled down to one sentence? If you want to be successful with single women, you'd better know how to keep her satisfied.

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Don Diebel is Americas #1 singles expert. If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website.