I am kinky in bed
Katrina writes, “I am in a relatively new relationship and everything is going well (we are discussing marriage already). Our sex life is great and we are deep in love. I guess my biggest concern is how he is going to react to me if I do something new in bed. I don’t want him to feel differently about me because I can be a bit of a freak, like for instance, unlike most women, I do watch a lot of porn, and learn new things by it. I can even have an amazing orgasm that way. How is he going to feel if I do that while were being intimate? I know what I like and what I want to do; I just don’t want him to think I’m a major freak.”
Husband must be your best friend in bed
In my opinion, a woman should marry a man with whom she can have complete understanding and appreciation. I know it is hard and most couples are not like that but one can try. Indeed you will need to compromise in your choice and later on as you pursue your married life together, but if a partner is constantly criticizing or judging you for who you are, it is not going to work.
I think your boyfriend likes you as a woman and has, therefore, agreed to marry you. My sense is that he also enjoys your style in bed; otherwise, he would have bolted a long time ago. Moreover, sex is something that a couple discovers together. So I am sure that you two have a lot to learn from each other as time passes. The sooner you give him a hint of who you are the better it is. There is a strong possibility that not only he may not mind it, he may even admire it and join you. I understand your concern about freaking him out, so, it is best to take one step at a time.
The other trick that I have used it is to make the other person feel that if it was their idea rather than yours. You will need to be creative here but for almost everything in life you can make someone else believe that they were the one to suggest it.
Is my mother in law trying to seduce me?
Brandon writes, “I have an Asian wife. I stay at her parents’ house sometimes and you might as well say I’ve lived there for a while since like many Asian families here in California she is very close to her family. On several occasions I noticed my mother-in-law catching a quick look at my package. When I noticed that she was looking, she made eye contact, smiled and looked away quickly. I thought I was dreaming at first. But as time went on, I started to notice more things. For instance, the clothes she wears: she mostly wears really tights or those leggings that are popular these days paired with a camisole or tank top. She also seems to have a preference for sheer lingerie that she does not mind walking around in. Her other favorite outfit to wear at home is a thin, low cut tank top, without bra, with very short shorts. You would think that to be inappropriate for a mature woman to wear around the house with when you have a guest. I also noticed that she positions herself somewhere that I can see her bending over and squatting. She never does these things when the rest of the family is around. She has even left a pair of her panties and bra where I can find them. I made the mistake of touching her feet one day, nothing forceful. She just sat there and watched TV. I basically did this to see if the things I had been noticing were true. But she ended up telling my wife and I had some explaining to do. I don’t want anything physical with her so mostly I ignore her, but I’ve noticed that she seems distant now. I just want to know why does she do all that stuff and has done way more than I have mentioned. A female friend of mine told me she wanted to sleep with me but I don’t really believe it. She acts like the perfect wife when her husband gets home. But I am noticing this weird vibe between us.”
I would have agreed with your female friend that she was interested in sex with you (I have heard from several of my readers who have reported sleeping with the family members of their wife or girlfriend simply because they were in sexless relationships and believe it or not it is much easier and safer to have casual sex with a family member than to find a complete stranger) but what I don’t understand is why would she inform your girlfriend when you touched her feet.
My theory is that she is what we call as a “tease.” She is essentially teasing you and playing with your mind but may not want to or may think that it is not possible to have sex with you. So far it seems that you have ignored her while she wants you to lust for her and that has made her mad with you. She feels that she has failed in her advances and that you think too highly of yourself or are too arrogant to ignore a woman who feels confident enough to walk around the house in short shorts and tank tops.
So, next time she does this, instead of looking away and pretending that she is not trying to seduce you, can you look with more desire in your eyes and body language and even compliment her? Don’t do anything more than looking and talking and hopefully something good will come out of it.
Victoria’s Secret Miraculous bra for women with C cup
Previously I published a glowing review of the Victoria’s Secret Miraculous bra. I received another review from a man who went shopping with his wife and had this to say:
“My wife is a 36 C, and we went in an tried it on for fun. She buys only Victoria’s Secret bras and panties (has for many years), and has quite a collection of their products (at least 10-20 bras and uncountable number of panties). However, this one was just way over the top in silly. I was able to step into the dressing room to watch her try this on (it was a slow day at VS), and we just started laughing at how silly it looked. We decided maybe it would look better with her shirt on, and this just made us laugh even more. It looked absolutely ridiculous. Maybe it works for smaller busted ladies, but unless your fantasy involves poorly drawn comic book ladies (or Barbie), this is a silly bra. We ended up picking up two of their Very Sexy bras on sale for $16.00 each, and still came in well under the whopping $52.00 they are asking for this bra. If you are taking an overseas flight, this may be worth it, as this would be a great flotation device.”