Can I be happy with my older boyfriend?
Nina writes, “I’ve a boyfriend now. He is 19 years older than me. He is the type that I have been seeking for so long. Will we have good future and get blessings from others?”
I hope you can understand that it is impossible to predict the future (and even less so about the future of relationships: the Gores have split up while the Clintons are still married). I couldn’t tell you the future even if you were dating a 19 year old.
What I can say, though, is that I have heard from hundreds of couples who have beautiful relationships despite age gaps all the way from few years to even 30-40 years. If a couple loves each other and has lots of things in common and only age-gap is an issue, I think they do very well, because age is just a number. If this is the man you have always wanted and he is committed to you for who you are, then you will make a great couple.
I am so happy to date my younger boyfriend
If you enjoyed reading the email from a man who is so happy with his much younger wife then you will be delighted to know that mature women too are finding much younger men and experiencing happiness that they never had before.
She writes, “This is an interesting story and really the chances of this happening to someone are one in a million. I had been in a marriage for 15 years and am now single. I was curious about what was out there when I was ready to move forward with my life. I have two children, ages 13 and 11. I was on the Internet and kind of just browsing around and came across this website to meet people. I signed up (it was free) and got an email from a younger guy. Of course I was
curious so I answered him. We met and spoke for a little bit and decided to meet again the next night. One thing led to another and we have been together for about an year. I still step back and try and figure it out but I gave up trying. Did I mention I am 42 and he is 19? Did I also mention that we are so much in love it’s unheard of. We clicked from the moment we met and have been attached to each other ever since. May I also add that he is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me in my life besides my children. He does everything for me and makes me feel like I am a queen. Wow, he even gave me a pedicure. And he cooks for me, house remodeling, yard work, etc etc etc…He loves the kids and does a lot for them too. The maturity level is unreal in him. He is starting the police academy in 4 months and wants to spend his life with me. Just how did this happen and how did I get so lucky? I am living for today as you never know when it will be your last. In the end, we all just want to be loved, respected, and have a best friend, no matter how old. This is what we found in each other.”
I am so happy with my younger wife
When younger women are attracted to much older men there is always the concern that she is attracted to his wealth or that she is stupid. Mature men who choose younger girls are often disliked by women their age because they feel betrayed.
But isn’t it all about the chemistry that a couple finds? Isn’t age only a number?
A reader of mine writes, “I’m married to a woman 25 years younger than me. We’ve been married 9 years. I thought she was out of her mind when she said she wanted to go out with me….but, I did find her attractive. We had worked on a couple of things together and found we had a lot in common. She was fun to be with and enjoyed doing things. She wasn’t bitter and didn’t carry around the usual 70′s generation man hating thing. She said that was her mother’s generational issue, not hers. I asked her why she wanted to date me..”Simple. Men my age are idiots and men don’t get attractive till 40 when the testosterone level decreases and they can speak!” I laughed, but she was right. Have I enjoyed the benefits of dating a younger woman? Yes, we have two children and I find, I’m a lot younger than my peers! There is the social stigma where some people, usually women over 40, look down upon me but I haven’t lost any sleep over it.”