Truth, honesty and sincerity are the foundation of relationships. On these we build our lives into strong buildings but one simple act of adultery will wreck it. So before one embarks on a prodigal journey one needs to weigh the consequences and see if they will be able to live with them.  (Related:  How to confront a cheater)

I recently heard of a man who had a stable girlfriend Susan. She trusted him so much that she gave him lots of space to do his work as he loved to work. The man took advantage of his freedom and began dating three other women and started taking them to his home. I don’t know how he did it but he was so good and never got caught for some time. Even the women didn’t realize he was double-crossing them. Eventually the women began to put pressure on him as to why he could not commit; he realized he had to end these relationships fast because Susan would find out. The results of his actions were as follows:

• Girlfriend A was pregnant; so he arranged for an abortion.
• Girlfriend B got frustrated and broke it off.
• Girlfriend C, the youngest amongst them went into depression and she is the one that caused damage/exposure.

You see most people would say, “It feels good, so let’s do it. Why should we wait, tomorrow will sort itself out?” What if you don’t use protection? Well, know that your tomorrow depends on the decision you make today. One wrong choice and your life is gone. It is such ‘spur of the moment’ things that cause everlasting problems because you will end up messed-up and start to say, “Oh I wish I had never set eyes on you, I should have walked away and I wouldn’t be in this mess today.” The blame game. If we could start looking ahead before we do certain things we could actually avoid certain problems in life. As the medical folks say, ‘Prevention is better than cure’.  (Related article:  Impact of adultery on family and children)

For instance, a teenage girl goes to boarding school leaving home for the first time. Mom says, “You take care of yourself and remember all I taught you.” She, on the other hand, says when she gets there, “Oh, Mom is just old-fashioned”.  Before the term ends, she is back home expelled from school because she is pregnant. She was unfaithful to her mom and broke the trust. Adultery robbed her of her youth through a ‘spur of the moment’ pleasure. She has to spend her time looking after a baby instead of growing up and getting an education.

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