Seducing Japanese women

Japanese women, in most cases, are extremely polite and this is a cultural attribute.  While accepting a drink from a stranger in a bar or a restaurant in other countries has at least some hidden meaning in terms of higher acceptance, in case of Japanese women, it could very well be just a polite gesture (though it will be resisted strongly since Japanese people do not accept favors even from other Japanese).

What this means is that small things that men typically do to break the ice in other countries do not work so effectively with Japanese women.  In fact Japanese women do not give many opportunities since they rarely go out to meet strangers though it is changing in some cases.  If you are a Japanese, you can try hangouts of young people and hope for some good luck.  If you are a non-Japanese, then the easiest thing to do is to participate in all those ‘international parties’ that are held all over Japan.  The success ratio of meeting Japanese women at these parties is much higher since the screening process is inherent in the system: if these women did not like foreign men they would not be there in the first place.  Many of these women actually attend these parties with the sole purpose of finding a foreigner friend, preferably a native speaker of English, so that they can practice their English conversation skills.  Do not be surprised if finding a boyfriend is also a hidden motive.

• Try not to ‘come on’ to a Japanese woman because that is not how her mind is conditioned.  You have to almost do it without doing it, meaning that you have to show your interest but still leave the ball in the woman’s court.  The easiest trick is to position yourself as a serious student of Japanese art/culture/language/music/food or anything else that she is interested in though the language card works all the time. 
• Make sure that you praise her beauty.  Japanese society does not allow for open praise and when non-Japanese men do it, they are welcomed since it is so refreshing and unexpected.
• Be patient.  Some of these women may actually be speaking to a non-Japanese for the first time in their lives.  An aggressive approach may scare them since Japanese men are more subtle in their approach.  While show your genuine interest in her, give her some time to decide to take the next step.
• Use hypnotism.
• Japanese women will indulge in acts that they would not with a Japanese simply because they are not Japanese.  These women are interested in non-Japanese men for the simple reason that they can realize some of their wildest dreams.  Watch out for these women carefully.
• Do not rush into touching, holding hands, kissing, petting, etc. unless you feel that you have the most positive signal.  Remember that Japanese women do not send any direct signals but indirect signals are easy to decipher.  Some of the signs are: a dinner date on a weekend, a date closer to your residence, a date in a less crowded area like a park or lake, suggestive dress on a date, late night phone-calls, etc.
• Body language is critical in understanding if she is a potential candidate for seduction.  If the hands are placed in an inviting manner and the eyes indicate a positive disposition, you have good signs to more forward.  (Related:  Body language of a cheater)
• Since Japanese women do not typically admit that they wanted ‘IT,’ you have to help them believe it by coordinating events in a manner that it sounds like a coincidence or an inevitable event rather than planned.  Some of the tricks are: missing the last train, too much alcohol, carried away by an overflow of emotions, etc.
• Take one step at a time and while you will encounter some resistance (mostly in words) but that is to reinforce what has already been described previously.  Remember you have to make them feel that you want it rather than her!  (Warning:  Do not be dumb either – watch carefully for signs if you are actually forcing someone.  Stop immediately and apologize.)
• The areas that Japanese women believe to be most sensitive are neck, earlobes, thighs, and tongue.  Pay special attention to the back as well.
• Be gentle and slow and do not rush it.  Think of it like a tea ceremony.

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